Citalopram Has Ruined My Marriage (Page 2) (Top voted first)

A while a ago my daughter was being bullied at school, which drove her to take an overdose, thank fully she was ok and is doing fine now. But my wife took it really hard and started to suffer with anxiety so the doctor gave her citalopram. Instantly I noticed a change in her attitude, she just turned so hard faced and cold toward me, then what was a healthy sexual relationship turned to a relationship with no sex at all, I've tried to tell her that this drug has changed her but she is not interested, this drug had changed her from being a normal loving mother/wife to a woman who needs no love or affection. And now after 15yrs of being together she wants a divorce, to sell the house and go our separate ways, I am absolutely devastated I can't imagine my life without this woman I have loved for so long, but it's the medication im dealing with not my wife, she's in there some where but I can't and don't know how to bring her back. I love my wife and would do anything to keep her and not get divorced but it all seems to be falling on deaf ears. Is there anyone out there who knows what I can do? I am heartbroken and don't want to leave her in this state but she is adamant that we split immediately.

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I have tooo. someone needs to put HOME WRECKER on the pill bottle. MY wife kicked me out 2 days before fathers daY.,

when I saw this it opened my eyes to why my wife started being mean to my daughter from my previous marriage.

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My wife has been on Celexa for a few years now. Our relationship is in ruins. She has destroyed her relationship with my parents. She treats me terrible. The only reason I ve stuck around is my daughter. I m trying to get her off the drug but shes not listening. I need help. Is there a class action against this Drug?

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Wow sounds like my ex we were happy as and had a great life, he started taking them foe aniexty - and after 3 months on them he left me and my kids - after being separated after 13 yrs he now has a new girl friend and lives with her after 4 weeks - he's never said sorry or nothing no feelings at all

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I found this thread last year when I was trying to figure out what happened to my girlfriend of 9 years. She started taking this medication for fibro pain, and the person I knew and loved for so long ceased to exist almost overnight. One week we were getting married and buying a house, the next she wanted to break up out of the blue.

My story mirrors a lot of others on this post. Change of personality, lack of empathy/emotion, cruel /cold/callous, angry, irritable, atypical behavior, drinking and driving, extroversion, and eventually breaking up and putting her life at risk having unprotected sex with strangers (the day after breaking up over text message).

What I know now is this drug brought out latent BIPOLAR DISORDER. Antidepressants are known for inducing bipolar episodes in those predisposed to the illness. My SO had never exhibited this behavior in the 9 years we had been together, there was no suspicion of any kind of mental illness. Unfortunately once an episode takes hold it's almost impossible to get through to them. They may feel great, totally justified in their new feelings, convinced they've always felt this way, and their memories become distorted to the point that they can't remember how things actually used to be.

The treatment is mood stabilizers and anti manic medication. It's an urgent situation that requires immediate attention! My SO has been out of the hospital and off citalopram for 4 months now and while doing better is still not back to herself. Finding the correct combination of medications takes time, as does healing from an episode. She may never be the same, and our relationship was catastrophically destroyed, but at least she has a fighting chance at life now.

That last post about feeling like you hate one of your kids just smells like bipolar. I've heard parents describe the same thing before. The anger and irritability changes how you feel about everything. It's a very treatable illness, get some help & best of luck!

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Hello, So sorry to hear. Experienced the same with my husband and his medication. We can only try to find the person we love behind this foggy behaviour of theirs and I wish you all luck and patience.....Vito

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My husband of 2 1/2 years (we dated for 8 years before getting married) started taking Citalopram after bringing up his anxiety/depression to the doctor during a routine physical. The doctor kept pushing him to give it a try and after declining it 3 times during the appointment, he finally gave in and decided to give it a shot. Our marriage was going great and we were happier than ever with a beautiful 16 month old daughter, until one day a few weeks after starting the Citalopram.. out of the blue my husband told me our marriage wasn't going to work. He said he wasn't happy and hasn't been for a long time and he didn't love me like he used to. Everyone that knows him can't even believe it and are in complete shock because he was just so happy with his family weeks before. He had been saying we should try for baby #2 within the next month or so. Also, he just bought me a necklace for mothers day that had 3 charms- one with our daughter's name, birth date & birth stone, one with mine, and one with HIS! He gave me a family necklace including himself one day, and weeks later he wants to end things! I told him I was worried it was the medication and he said if anything it's been helping him think more clearly.. but I don't believe it. He is not the loving guy I've known for over 10 years! He doesn't even want to try to fight for our marriage. Just decided it was over. He is thinking, talking, and acting irrationally and I blame this drug! This all started shortly after starting Citalopram. (He started Chantix as well as Citalopram for the first 2 weeks, but dropped the Chantix after 2 weeks because he didn't think it was working to quit smoking).

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I have been with my husband for 17 years, married 18 months. My father-in-law passed away suddenly and I encouraged my to see a doctor and he was put on Citalopram. 2 years he has been on them and we have our arguments, like all couples but he has now said he doesn't love me and showing no emotion al all! Having read this forum, it has made me realise that the arguments we have had have been increased since he has been on this medication.

I am distraught, I love my husband more then anything, he is my sole mate! I don't know what to do. Its 5 weeks till xmas and he wants to separate! Our 13 year old daughter is so upset, but this isn't making a difference. Intimacy has been none existent since being on these tablets and I have not pressured him. This drug needs to be reevaluated as it is messing with peoples families. I am sure there are other medication that can help.

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This drug is very dangerous. Doctors should not be prescribing it unless severe or tragic or devastating depression or psychosis is occuring. I took this med 10 mg, the 20 mg for about 6 months until I realized I could not even do my fast paced job as an exceptional student educator. I was in a fog and couldn't focus or concentrate on a thing, nevermind care about my housework, etc. I had severe anxiety and depression after a divorce and separation after 15 year relationship, married for 10, with two young children. I could not eat or sleep and needed something to deal with this situation. I remember my doctor telling me that one of her patients had lost her son, he was hit by a car riding his bike, and this is what she gave him... and she decided this is what to give me??!! I immediately gained weight, and after we got back together, I stopped taking the medication. For the next year and a half I experienced what I believed were long term affects of the SSRI, as it completely altered my entire endocrine system. Recently, I have discovered something called Green Vibrance, a probiotic green shake and miraculously this has brought me back to my old self. It is much more than a probiotic healthy green shake, but a detox and essential part of my daily routine now. I really recommend getting in your car and going to your nearest healthfood store and picking up this stuff. It is amazing.

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Hi Andrew....My hubby is on 20mg Ciprimil....it has been a nightmare with wrong meds and wrong diagnosis for approximately 9 years. Now he has been on this 9th medication, Ciprimil, he has become totally self absorbed with no affection or love towards me or his family. It is almost like he needs to pretend to show affection. He has severe depression, mood disorder and what the psychiatrist called 'personality dysfunction'.
It is so hard as we have not had much luck with meds...he was on Cymbalta for 3 years with horrible side effects but we were told by the medical profession this was usual and move on with life. I wonder what it is to be happy and normal at times.

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I took Celexa and it changed me and I didn't even realize it, until I went away and forgot my medicine and after about a little over a week I started to see how this awful drug changed me. It was hard on my children and was a nightmare and that damage it has done I am still dealing with years later.

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im at my wits end my girlfreind was upped to 40 citalopram and im lucky to get even close to kiss her. we live seperately but have got on great in all departments until the increase. now she is either shopping or at work and spendstime with workmates, she has ended it three times but keeps coming back am i being a mug ?

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My heart and prayers go out to you. I am in the throes of a recent decision by my wife to divorce me and there are certain similarities.

1. She needs to hear she has a problem from someone other than you. She is an altered emotional state and is shut down to you.

2. Who is influencing her? Is anyone pushing her?

3. God willing, she is a believer and perhaps a minister could get through to her.

My wife is actually in need of the drug but the pathway to help is the same. I truly understand the anguish. It is a burden that is heavy. I urge you to get in a support group. In your state of turmoil you will be of no use if you lose yourself while trying wildly to save another.

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I am actually the one on the medication at the moment 40mg I have changed so much in myself my partner who I worshipped I now feel irritated by when she has done nothing wrong. Like I am suffocated by her. I want to feel like I used to and am planning on coming off this medication to see if I can change at least a little back to how I was. I actually hate that I can't give her the love she deserves. If I cuddle her it feels fake and like there is nothing in it. There really should be she has done everything for me. The feeling of coldness is not nice. I feel like I'm out of control. I am hunting other girls i dont care who i just feel like i need to mess around and thats not what i want to be but the urge is so big. When it comes to it i usually cant because of themeds and even cuddling new girls is no feeling. I used to love cuddling. The best way to describe the feeling being on them is confusion frustration and lack of care. Not a good mix! The other night I drank a 1.25 litre bottle of sambuca without care. Still don't care. Not healthy not good I don't care. It's the knowing that I should care that has bought me here. Will post an update in a few weeks or months when I'm off them. I'm on them for social anxiety. They have helped to the point I feel like I am a danger to myself as I have a burning desire to feel alive and that's all about being crazy isn't it? I am going out of my mind

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My partner of 13 yrs, just up and left us me and our 2 kids, we had a great life, and were doing well, of course the kids being 6yrs and 11 yrs, would fight all the time and he lost it went on these terrible pills 3 months later left us, Im heart broken, no warning nothing, he's 32 so not too old, and didn't want sex, was grumpy and short at us, couldn't sleep, just a a-hole, now he's gone from our own home and a great life to his mums, and she lives in a council flat, thats like 70 mtr squared, and sleeps on a swab, and is as nutty as a fruit cake, Man I miss him, man his doctor is a prick. I met him once and gave him this crap, now me and the kids are screwed, and sad.

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I knew it would not take but seconds to find a story like mine. I married my high school sweetheart and raised awesome kids. My wife found out about this med from her mom. It is a crime that general practitioners can prescribe this medicine. My wife started taking in 2011. I encouraged her to seek counseling but she avoided that mostly. Towards the end of the marriage I insisted she meet with a psychiatrists to be sure she is on the correct medications. She was prescribed something new but never took it and opted to stick with this medicine that killed the personality of the woman I married. We are now divorced. I truly believe she is more sick and turned into a narcissist with zero remorse. Told me she loves her medicine more than our marriage. She has acted so strange over the past few years that any normal person would assume she is cheating on me but sadly for her that not the case.

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My 17 yr. old started taking 5mg then on to ten. 2 weeks in he stopped talking to me. Completely changed in personality. I didn't know what I was seeing. Not until I did 11 months of research. No call from the doctor to me the 4 weeks he was on it. 4 weeks to the day of starting this he hung himself in the garage. Don't let these doctors tell you this med is ok. Get counseling, CBT, embr therapy. Supposedly it's better for adults but unless you are hospitalized I'd try anything else first. Mindfulness CBT is a good thing. Too late for me. They don't even know how the drug works.

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Steve,
What is an AAP? I'm unfamiliar with that acronym. On the Ted Talk series's there is a woman who was dignosis a physcoprentic and after years of treatment was able to identify and deal with the trauma that brought on the symptoms. I think these symptoms are brought on as a protective mechanism and to tell us something is wrong. I also thing in some cases it could be a brain stucture difference and since the young brain has plasticity it can be altered. Truth is medical profession wants to give a pill and forget about it but in many cases it too years for these thing to built and to think flooding the brain with seratonin is the answer is wishful thinking if they really thought about it using critical thought and look at the true outcomes as to efficacy. It's the only thing they have and big pharma is not likely to give up the billions even if it means lives.

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Hi my name is Samantha my husband and I have known each other basically all our lives been in other relationships but found one another 14yrs ago been married 8 yrs now and have a beautiful 7 yr old son together, he has suffered from depression and anxiety for a very long time. He was off all medicine for almost 6 yrs he recently starting seeing this doctor she prescribed him this citalopram and Xanax he took it for 2weeks then out of the blue said he loves me but isn't in love with me? Now he is living on the streets basically. Our 7 yr old son and I are both confused in need of answers can any one help?

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I've just read through Peter R. Breggin, MD where he clearly describes how Celexa destroys marriages. He throughly states the stages and how this happens but the people don't realize it's the drug. Highly recommend his book medication madness. He is a Harvard trained Dr. In practice for 4 decades.

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Well usually people are told they can go on it for a period of time and come off. Be very careful to taper off by reducing dosage over time. You need to know as does she this drug can alter brain architecture. Specifically by neurogenics. You may have been happy with how things were going but maybe she wasn't and didn't know exactly what was wrong or possibly how to express it. If you want to support her suggest she come off the drug with Dr.s help and then examine your life together and make plans on how to improve it. Maybe go to marriage counseling to help each of you to express wants and needs in a constructive manner to each other. Understand for many these drugs can be addictive. The drug companies would like nothing better. People grow and change and needs become different during ones life time. Clearly she was becoming anxious over something so as her life partner you must make an effort to understand and help her. It may not, probably won't be easy. But what is the alternative?

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