Citalopram Has Ruined My Marriage (Page 4)
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A while a ago my daughter was being bullied at school, which drove her to take an overdose, thank fully she was ok and is doing fine now. But my wife took it really hard and started to suffer with anxiety so the doctor gave her citalopram. Instantly I noticed a change in her attitude, she just turned so hard faced and cold toward me, then what was a healthy sexual relationship turned to a relationship with no sex at all, I've tried to tell her that this drug has changed her but she is not interested, this drug had changed her from being a normal loving mother/wife to a woman who needs no love or affection. And now after 15yrs of being together she wants a divorce, to sell the house and go our separate ways, I am absolutely devastated I can't imagine my life without this woman I have loved for so long, but it's the medication im dealing with not my wife, she's in there some where but I can't and don't know how to bring her back. I love my wife and would do anything to keep her and not get divorced but it all seems to be falling on deaf ears. Is there anyone out there who knows what I can do? I am heartbroken and don't want to leave her in this state but she is adamant that we split immediately.

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sorry to hear Adam. My wife dropped her medication from 40 to 20 and since has stopped the divorce and begged me to come back. Ive returned to the family home but she still shows signs of being unnaturally selfish! i hope this decreases when the medication drops further but some minor improvements since realizing the issue and working to reduce.

out of interest - have there been changes in your personality since starting?

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My story is the same. My childhood sweetheart of 15 years and who I have 2 kids with has decided she doesn't want me any more, she says she loves me and finds me attractive but has lost the "spark" I don't know if it is what it is but she started taking citalopram (20mg) shortly after having our second son, she went to the dr and said she was feeling numb and felt like jumping out of a window so was put on them for postnatal depression, her mood changed a lot she was not so stressed as she would be about things. She has been on them for over 2 years now and recently decided she wants more from life saying she has felt like this for guess what 18 months/2 years. She is only 30 and can't continue carrying on thinking "what if" . I said about a year ago I wanted her to come off them as did her family as she was a different person, no labido less empathy and quite selfish. She met this guy at work (23yrs old) and really got on with him and ended up kissing him she felt guilty and wanted me back but a couple of weeks later she changed her mind again. And now I'm on citalopram for he depression of it all and the reason I have searched this is because of the lack of empathy and change in my personality and it got me thinking... Maybe it is the meds or maybe I'm just clutching at straws and she has just fallen out of love with me! But either way it seems quite coincidental that there are so many similar stories.

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I know how you feel- citalopram has done the same to me -destroyed all my emotions. My whole life wrecked

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Yes citalopram has ruined my life too. It's taken away all my positive emotions and made me feel like a zombie; it's so frightening having all my relationships destroyed because I have no feelings- like waiting to die. It's a license to kill. Just wish I could reach everyone whose about to take it for the first time AND WARN THEM ABOUT THIS SOUL DESTROYING SSRI.

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Hi Andrew....My hubby is on 20mg Ciprimil....it has been a nightmare with wrong meds and wrong diagnosis for approximately 9 years. Now he has been on this 9th medication, Ciprimil, he has become totally self absorbed with no affection or love towards me or his family. It is almost like he needs to pretend to show affection. He has severe depression, mood disorder and what the psychiatrist called 'personality dysfunction'.
It is so hard as we have not had much luck with meds...he was on Cymbalta for 3 years with horrible side effects but we were told by the medical profession this was usual and move on with life. I wonder what it is to be happy and normal at times.

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This drug is very dangerous. Doctors should not be prescribing it unless severe or tragic or devastating depression or psychosis is occuring. I took this med 10 mg, the 20 mg for about 6 months until I realized I could not even do my fast paced job as an exceptional student educator. I was in a fog and couldn't focus or concentrate on a thing, nevermind care about my housework, etc. I had severe anxiety and depression after a divorce and separation after 15 year relationship, married for 10, with two young children. I could not eat or sleep and needed something to deal with this situation. I remember my doctor telling me that one of her patients had lost her son, he was hit by a car riding his bike, and this is what she gave him... and she decided this is what to give me??!! I immediately gained weight, and after we got back together, I stopped taking the medication. For the next year and a half I experienced what I believed were long term affects of the SSRI, as it completely altered my entire endocrine system. Recently, I have discovered something called Green Vibrance, a probiotic green shake and miraculously this has brought me back to my old self. It is much more than a probiotic healthy green shake, but a detox and essential part of my daily routine now. I really recommend getting in your car and going to your nearest healthfood store and picking up this stuff. It is amazing.

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Hi Andrew

I just wondered how your situation progressed? I'm going through what would appear to be an identical set of circumstances. After just a few months of increasing her dose from 20mg to 40mg, my wife kicked me out, filed for divorce and is selling the house and within a week of me leaving started dating someone else! Her only response is that she just doesn't feel the same for me anymore....

Is this real, does Citalopram cause this type of behaviour or has she just changed for other reasons..... Just wondered if there was any light at the end of this? we have three children and she doesn't even seemto care about the basic things like birthdays being split days between us or me having them nearly every weekend.

Such a dramatic change! I've asked her to see her doctor but apparently he thinks this is perfectly same behaviour!

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Yes, we have thought about it. most of our cases are of very loving people. We're not talking about just leaving a marriage. We're talking about COMPLETE personality changes. Now people are gambling their life savings away, having unprotected sex with many partners w/o care. Now drinking and doing drugs, people who NEVER done them, despised drugs. Now are out partying with drugs and alcohol. Leaving the church. Leaving their old friends and family in the dust and completely... 100 PERCENT COMPLETELY changing into another person. I've witnessed it myself.

It is a VERY REAL deal. We were together for 11 years and last ARGUMENT even was 6 years ago. Things were near perfect since then. Doing great, started a family, a new business which she ran into the ground now. Her friends are noticing changes too. She no longer fixes herself up. Lets herself go etc.

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Yes its always great to blame the medication instead of yourself or yourselves. Maybe its the case of she only stayed with you for so long-in the first place out of fear and or anxiety. Citalopram has been around since 1989 so the side effects are well known and you are somehow blaming this 'wonder drug' for ruining it.

Have you thought about your own actions? I mean you could try a different drug for her and see if she still dosn't want to stay with you.....

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I was curious if there was an update from the OP?

I too am a victim of this horrific side effect. My now ex wife changed completely in just 3 months. Started flirting HEAVILY with the help, even in front of me and then started cheating. Told me she loved me but not like a wife should and didn't even know why.

She's living with her brother now, seeing a 21 yo KID that looks like he's 15, hanging with teenagers etc. Acts like our kid is a stranger's kid, hardly shows emotion towards her.. She completely transformed into a person I hardly recognize, however she seems "fine" to her family and new friends. So heartbreaking. Our daughter is being very much affected by all of this. She's 3.

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I agree that it is the medication. I have withdrawn from it over the last month, the withdrawal is hard but necessary as this is a very strong medication, lots of side effects including the ones you mention. I hope that she can withdraw from this drug, needs to be done very slowly with Doctor supervision, either use something else or find another way through it.

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Both myself and my husband took them i cried all the time and wished i was dead propa screwed me up and my husbamd turned into a corps totally changed him from the lovely man i married made him do odd thing too after 23years i dnt know him anymore he was the love of my life i clould never love anybody else i binned my tablets and will never take a tablet again ever also quiolones affected me all my gp ever said keep taking them id visit a witchdoctor before id see a gp again i truely would

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Andrew, Have the doctor switch her medication. This is a common side effect with Citalopram.
Check out this article on Antidepressants and Sex:
prohealth.com/library/showarticle.cfm?libid=907
Do research via internet and see a different doctor if necessary. Don't lose hope.

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Andrew, have you spoken to her doctor about it?

I know they can't tell you about confidential things, but you can tell them what's going on and your concerns, in case she isn't. Her doctor may not be aware that things have gotten that bad.

https:/­/­rxchat.com/­wiki/­Citalopram/­

There is also the possibility that it isn't the medication, at all, and she just doesn't feel the same way about you that she used to and you may just have to accept and face that. It does happen.

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Dear Andrew,

I can hear the concern and the brokenness in your letter, and I will be Praying for you and your Wife and your Merriage. Through the Lord Jesus, ALL things are possable!

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Your post has opened my eyes about myself and my behavior while taking this med. I too am colder n more distant. I have and go days without being intimate. It's just when i dont take it i slip into a very depressed state. My doc said we could adjust the meds to something else. He also suggested me not take the meds on a day we plan to be sexual!

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